Probably the biggest character flaw I hate is lying. I was informed tonight by my eldest daughter that lying is a genetic trait and the liar cannot control it. Yes, she was dead serious.
I knew daughter number 2 had the "gene" at a very young age. She was too little to know that her lies were so obviously lies that there was no wondering if things were true or not...they just were obvious lies. I was quite a bit frightened that she was going to have the lying "gene". Back then I would blame any bad trait on their father. Actually, one night when driving to college for 90 minutes, my brother in law explained to me that his brother had lied all his life as if he couldn't help it. As upsetting as that was to hear, it answered a lot of unanswered questions. As hard as I tried not to let it be our undoing, it just was.
I started to notice my oldest daughter's lying in middle school. It snowballed in early high school until I made her suffer for 2 years under my close watch and strict rules. I know some would say I am too hard on the bigger girls, but I am sure my youngest will have her time with lying when she gets bigger, although she can't possibly have the "gene". I put "gene" in quotes because it is my way of rolling my eyes on the computer for all to see. I actually rolled my eyes in the car tonight when I was informed of this genetic defect, but as I comtemplate, I am thinking maybe there is something to that. ??? I need to do some research. Nevertheless, lying is the quickest way to end relationships in my opinion. I worry that my girls will not see this until it is too late. I talk to them constantly when the subject comes up (after I catch them in yet another lie) and tell them that if they ever want to have a lasting relationship, they need to not ruin it by lying. Oldest girl tells me that it is out of her control. ***eye roll***
Just another thing in my list to worry about regarding my kids.
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